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Culture & the Family
Family focus desperately needed
June 21, 2023
Jonathan Small
U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy has declared war on a “loneliness epidemic.” Murthy noted “about one-in-two adults in America reported experiencing loneliness. And that was before the COVID-19 pandemic cut off so many of us from friends, loved ones, and support systems.” According to the CDC, 25.5 percent of adults ages 18-24 reported having seriously considered suicide in the past month.
We must reflect on how to reverse this trend and best equip people for thriving. When we consider the best environments to help people thrive and get support when they need it, the importance of the family cannot be ignored.
Murthy noted some of the cures for decreasing the significant number of people who experience loneliness will be “increasing connections through volunteer organizations or religious groups” and the important role that parents and caregivers have in helping their children build connection while modeling screen-free socializing and constructive conflict resolution.
While what society does to address loneliness is important, no institution is better suited and more on the front lines to address loneliness than the family. After all, it’s parents and guardians who provide homes, help children navigate educational needs, provide moral training and influence a child’s worldview, help develop a work ethic and resiliency (or grit), and teach youth the science of hope, the success sequence, and so much more.
Institute for Family Studies scholars Wendy Wang and W. Bradford Wilcox found that “Millennials are most likely to steer clear of poverty and towards the middle class when they follow the success sequence: that is, get at least a high school degree, hold a full-time job, and marry before having children—and in that order. Indeed, we find that 70% of upper-income Millennials have either followed or been on track with the success sequence.”
Wang and Wilcox found that an astounding 97% of Millennials who follow the success sequence “are not poor by the time they reach their prime young adult years (ages 28-34).”
Imparting these paths to thriving is a full-time job that institutions external to the family can support. But those entities can’t out-achieve what an immediate, healthy family can provide.
Recently, Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker, commenting on the epidemic of loneliness and anxiety, told college graduates: “I can offer one controversial antidote that I believe will have a lasting impact for generations to come: Get married and start a family.
“I don’t care if you have a successful career,” he said. “I don’t care if you have a big bank account or fly private. Many of you in this crowd may achieve these things. … But in the end—no matter how much money you attain—none of it will matter if you are alone and devoid of purpose.”
Regarding building and increasing the number of healthy families, Ian Rowe, author of the book Agency: The Four-Point Plan for ALL Children to Overcome the Victimhood Narrative and Discover Their Pathway to Power, has some valuable points on why and how to empower healthy families. I find two of Rowe’s statements especially important for the right mindset: “We have to have the courage to say things that are common sense,” and “It’s not about the family you’re from but about the family you form.”
If we truly care for children, those who are lonely, the most vulnerable, and the future, then we must focus on building and empowering strong families.